黃世琤教授 Professor Shih-Tseng Tina Huang

Wen-Chun Cho	Yun-Hsin Lin
National Kaohsiung Normal University	Taipei Municipal Da-Chi Senior High School

The purpose of this study is to explore the psychological experiences of the would-be lovers, including (1) the chatacteristics of the would-be lovers' cognition, emotion, and behavior in the process of unrequited love;(2) how the unrequited love occurs; and (3) how the unrequited love experience ends and the coping strategies used by the would-be lovers.
The researchers interviewed five subjects and analyzed the interview transcripts based on the principles of ground theory. Four stages were derived from the would-be lovers' experience, in which the subjects would repeatedly go through between “loving alone" and “whether or not to confess" stages. The would-be lovers were primarily attracted to the rejecters' personal characteristics. Three factors contributed to the occurrence of unrequited love; they are propinquity, the rejecter’s kind and considerate behavior towards the would-be lovers, and the would-be lovers' attribution and interpretation. The would-be lovers demonstrated different cognition, emotion, and behav- ior through the four stages. Whereas personal imagination and interpretation characterized the would-be lovers' cognition across the process of unrequited love, the rejecters, behavior would determine the would-be lovers' emotion, and the behavior indicated surface contact in courtship and lacked continuous interaction with the rejecters. Finally, the would-be lovers tended to use shifting attention, self-encouragement,getting support to adjust the heart-broken end.
The researchers raised several suggestions for counseling the would-be lovers and discussed the limitations of the study.

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