4-5 The reasons for conflict, conflict management and its effect in love relationship. 一一 In the sample of anxious attachment college students.
The purpose of this study was to investigate anxious attachment college student’s reasons for conflict 、 conflict mangament and its effect in love realationship.
The participants in this study was high anxious attachment on「 Interpersonal attachment style scale 」and were in love experience during the period of the study. All forteen participants were junior or senior of National Chang-hua University of Education.
The Qualitive method was adopted. Semi-structured interview was employed to collect data. The open coding was selected to analyze the data. The main finding were as follows.
(1) As the reasons for conflict. 「 the difference in their expectation of relationship 」「 being unsatisified with the other 」「 excessive self- involvement 」 「 the difference attitude toward external obstacle 」were four main reasons. 「 Why don’t you keep me on your mind 」 , the factor under the 「 difference in their expectation of relationship 」,was the reason reported by the participants most frequently. (2) As conflict mangament, it could be classified into three. catagories: focusing on 「 emotion mangament 」、「 problems themselves 」 and r suspending the problems alone 」. The first two methods wre used more frequently, the last one was used less. 「 Expressing self condition 」， the factor under the 「 focusing on problems themselves 」,was the reason reported by the participants most frequently. (3) Regard- ing the effect of conflict mangament on the love relationships，「 selfintrospection 」 and 「 self-adjustment 」「 adjustment 」 and 「 postive 」effect on the love relationship. However，「 to vent one feeling through language emotionally 」、「 quarrels 」 and 「 to change the topic of conversation 」 had negative effect. The two methods for conflict manga - ment were more complicated, one is 「 cold war 」 , the other is 「 yielding 」. After 「 old war 」，「 inqury 」 and 「 self-expression 」 from one of the couple had positive effects on their relationship, on the contrary,
「 to change the topic of communication 」 had negative effects. While
「 yielding」influened the relationship in both postive and negative ways. depended on the participants attitude toward yieding If the partic- ipants felt confortable to yield, postive effects participants felt comfortable to yield, postive effects rose. If they felt unfair, negative effects came up.
Disscussion of the finding was proposed. Based on the results and limitations of this study, suggestion were made for gender education, the practice of counseling and the future research.
Keywords
college student, sttachment, love relationship, conflict
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